Relationship tips- does an dont's during fights and quarrels

Never:
* Use bad language while fighting.
* Threaten to terminate your relationship, just for the sake of gaining an upper hand.
* Become judgmental about his character if it has nothing to do with the fight.
* Use force (hands, feet, vessels, mobile phones) to show power.
* Quote past experiences. Let bygones be bygones.
* React! Yes, reaction is an emotional process that could make the situation worse.
Always:
* Respond! A response is to find a solution to the problem. This can lead to creative handling of future problems.
* Fight when both of you are calm and composed.
* Fight in a place where you will not be disturbed. Make sure the kids or a third-party are not around.
* Make sure that if he begins what he has to say, you allow him to end it. DO NOT interrupt him.
* Remember to express what you are feeling at that exact same moment. Don’t hesitate to say it if you are feeling “sad”, rather than “angry” at that point of time.
Making up tips…
Post fighting, both of you need your space to settle your emotions and get back together. Here’s what you do:
* Doing something that is ‘not you’ can be bring relief to the tension in your fights. Surprise him, do something that you would usually never do. Get him flowers, candy, or say things to him that you would normally never say. (Nice things, of course!)
* Say sorry. If it was your fault and you know it, say sorry.
* Celebrate! Once a resolution has been reached, celebrate the occasion. A candle light dinner, good sex. In other words, be close to each other.
* Last but not the least, FORGET about the issues that caused hurt. Rather, concentrate on the solutions that you have come up with.

MusicMonday - ♫ ABBA- The Winner Takes It All(Live 1980) ♫

When i listen to this song i cry rivers because this song reflects break ups and, breaks ups are real tough to deal with... I fear break ups all the time because they wrench the soul out of you after severing your heart open. Break ups embed a scar in your heart, which isn't visible to the eye of course but when you feel those scars then your life resembles nothing but, bitterness in the wilderness... and when your scarred, your scarred forever...

The Abbas, my favorite band from the oldies, must have felt terrible while singing this beautiful, emotional and meaningful song esp because it also reflects the bitter divorce between the lead singer in the song and one of the groups members. You can see 'past and pain' in her eyes, they tell it all... the duo concerned might verbally deny but never her eyes, whom sings :)

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MusicMonday - ♫ Celine Dion - When i need you ♫

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Music Monday- ♫ Only Time ♫

Love changes everything, your dreams, thinking, choices, priorities, and helps you tune into the rhythm of life... and even when you don't know where destiny would lead you too, you both walk on and on...

The vid features Enya's (singer) soundtrack from the movie 'Sweet November'. Its a sweet movie where strangers meet, fall in love and part as lovers... i cried, it was heartbreaking in the end! lol..

Happy MM :-)

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If there were no tomorrow

I would tell you today
That you are the one that fills my life
Whose smile I cannot wait to see
Whose arms I long to have wrapped around me
Whose lips I live to kiss
Softly, passionately, in every way.

I would want you to know
That you make my heart skip a beat
You fill my soul with contentment
You brighten my dark skies
You fill my days and nights
With stars, hopes, and cascading dreams.

I would want you to see
How beautiful the world looks with your eyes through mine
Your eyes light up the sky
Your touch paints the Heavens
Your kiss creates amazing rainbows
Of beauty, sunshine, and life.

I would want you to understand
That I have always loved you
Before I knew there was you
Before our eyes ever met
Before I found in you
Happiness, completeness, and passion.

If there were no tomorrow
I would tell you
That you are the greatest gift in my life
Whose love I cherish above all else
You sustain me with
Your laughter, love, and friendship
Before there was no knowing
I'd tell you I love you infinitely, without boundaries, and beyond time.

MusicMonday - ♫ Beyoncé - Halo ♫

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MusicMonday - ♫ Mariah Carey - Without You ♫

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